Hi everyone! It has been so long since I blogged and I am beyond excited to get back at it! Over the past month my job has been crazy busy, I've been under the weather a bit, and I've been trying to make more of an effort to spend quality time with my friends, family, and Eli. Yes, Eli is still around! I am incredibly happy in my relationship with him and excited to see what the future holds. But, lets dive into today's blog. I want to talk about anger. Anger towards past relationships and towards certain people in your life.
I am on this topic because lately I have felt a lot of anger towards my past relationship with Max. Not only have I felt angry about the relationship, but I have felt so much anger towards all of the people in my life that I associate with him, and that chapter. As you know, I have a good friend who is still good friends with Max. Usually I am able to handle it, but lately it has made me so angry and anxious. I have been getting so angry and worked up every time I think about their friendship. It has been emotional painful and draining. Why is this? Why does this make me so angry even though I'm so happy with Eli? I honestly don't have an answer to that. I can't tell you why it is happening, but I can tell you that I have realized it is a natural part of this breakup process. Feeling this way happens to so many people, and it is normal.
When I talk about this anger with my therapist, we can call her Dr. G, she tells me that it is natural. Going through a breakup sometimes mirrors a death. You feel shock, sadness, denial, anger, and eventually you come to acceptance. When I look at it this way, I feel better about this agonizing and painful anger I feel. Maybe I am not at complete acceptance of this entire Max situation yet. Because lets be honest, once you end a relationship you usually don't have to deal with one of your best friends still communicating with your ex. But, this is the hand I have been dealt, so I am doing my best to handle it. This means that there might be some days when I feel angry or sad, but that is okay. I have learned that this type of anger is normal in a dissolution of a relationship. It is just one of the many phases we have to go through to process the whole situation.
If any of you are going through this; feeling anger, guilt, anxiety, or sadness, know that it is a natural part of a breakup and it will be okay one day. We have to feel all of these things because when we do and when we come out on the other side we will appreciate the journey we went on. Until next time!
I am on this topic because lately I have felt a lot of anger towards my past relationship with Max. Not only have I felt angry about the relationship, but I have felt so much anger towards all of the people in my life that I associate with him, and that chapter. As you know, I have a good friend who is still good friends with Max. Usually I am able to handle it, but lately it has made me so angry and anxious. I have been getting so angry and worked up every time I think about their friendship. It has been emotional painful and draining. Why is this? Why does this make me so angry even though I'm so happy with Eli? I honestly don't have an answer to that. I can't tell you why it is happening, but I can tell you that I have realized it is a natural part of this breakup process. Feeling this way happens to so many people, and it is normal.
When I talk about this anger with my therapist, we can call her Dr. G, she tells me that it is natural. Going through a breakup sometimes mirrors a death. You feel shock, sadness, denial, anger, and eventually you come to acceptance. When I look at it this way, I feel better about this agonizing and painful anger I feel. Maybe I am not at complete acceptance of this entire Max situation yet. Because lets be honest, once you end a relationship you usually don't have to deal with one of your best friends still communicating with your ex. But, this is the hand I have been dealt, so I am doing my best to handle it. This means that there might be some days when I feel angry or sad, but that is okay. I have learned that this type of anger is normal in a dissolution of a relationship. It is just one of the many phases we have to go through to process the whole situation.
If any of you are going through this; feeling anger, guilt, anxiety, or sadness, know that it is a natural part of a breakup and it will be okay one day. We have to feel all of these things because when we do and when we come out on the other side we will appreciate the journey we went on. Until next time!