The other night I went out to dinner with two of my friends and their boyfriends. Yes, before you ask, I was the fifth wheel. But with my friends it never feels like that. We all have a great time and it never feels like the couples vs. the singles which I, a single, am super grateful for. But, when we were at dinner we over heard a girl at another table talking about love, dating, and realtionships. Right up my alley! She said, "You can't be friends with your first love. I could never be friends with Tim. He was my first and you don't get over that." This statement opened the window for so many conversations and questions amongst the people at my table.
When she said that one of my girlfriends immediately shouted "TRUE." The other laughed and said "you got that right honey." The guys stayed quiet, and so did I. I stayed quiet because I am friendly with Sam, my first love. They always tell me I'm crazy for that and I should hate him. But, that's a different story for a different time ;)
Sam and I talk every so often when we hear news that we know the other would appreciate, on holidays, when there is bad news, or on any other occasion that we have in common. I am able to have this type of friendship with him. But, when I think about it, the relationship I have with him isn't a true friendship, its more like an acquaintance relationship.
In a true friendship you can talk about anything, know each others secrets, hang out all the time, and enjoy each other's company without being on edge. Sam and I don't have that. I don't know about his relationship, or ever care to ask. He doesn't know about my dating life, and doesn't ask. Even though we broke up three years ago, that topic would be painful and incredibly uncomfortable. This makes me wonder if that girl at dinner actually had a point.
This is all just my opinion. Everyone has different experiences with exes and different points of view. For me, now that I really think about it, I could never be true friends with my first love. It would never work because so many important topics in our lives would be off limits due to feelings from the past. I believe it is possible to be an acquaintance, but a true friendship, I feel like that would be very hard to come by.
What do you all think? Until next time!
When she said that one of my girlfriends immediately shouted "TRUE." The other laughed and said "you got that right honey." The guys stayed quiet, and so did I. I stayed quiet because I am friendly with Sam, my first love. They always tell me I'm crazy for that and I should hate him. But, that's a different story for a different time ;)
Sam and I talk every so often when we hear news that we know the other would appreciate, on holidays, when there is bad news, or on any other occasion that we have in common. I am able to have this type of friendship with him. But, when I think about it, the relationship I have with him isn't a true friendship, its more like an acquaintance relationship.
In a true friendship you can talk about anything, know each others secrets, hang out all the time, and enjoy each other's company without being on edge. Sam and I don't have that. I don't know about his relationship, or ever care to ask. He doesn't know about my dating life, and doesn't ask. Even though we broke up three years ago, that topic would be painful and incredibly uncomfortable. This makes me wonder if that girl at dinner actually had a point.
This is all just my opinion. Everyone has different experiences with exes and different points of view. For me, now that I really think about it, I could never be true friends with my first love. It would never work because so many important topics in our lives would be off limits due to feelings from the past. I believe it is possible to be an acquaintance, but a true friendship, I feel like that would be very hard to come by.
What do you all think? Until next time!