When I was broken up with my by first boyfriend it took me a VERY long time to move one. About a year and a half to be exact. This was for many reasons. I felt scared, untrusting, and nervous, but I also felt another emotion. Guilt. Even though he broke up with me, I felt so guilty for talking to other guys. I felt like it was my job to remain single and wait for him to come back to me. After a long period of waiting I realized how insane that was. It is okay to take as long as you need to in order to recover from a break up. If it takes you a week, a month, or even a year, that is all fine. It is important to go at your own pace. But, it is important to not guilt yourself into staying single and living in the past. I did that for so long. Every time I tried to move on I felt a wave of guilt. It was a horrible helpless feeling. But, once I stopped and asked myself why I was feeling guilty, my outlook began to shift. Why should I feel guilty? He broke up with me, it had been a year, and he was happy with someone else. Why shouldn't I be happy too? It took me a long time to come to this realization, but it showed me how important it is to question your feelings and to be in touch with your thoughts and emotions. Many times we question other peoples' feelings, we need to be able to communicate with ourselves and grow. This is one important lesson both of my breakups taught me. There is always a bright side to every storm.
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February 2016
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