I don't know about all of you, but I ask myself "what if" a lot. When I think about my relationship with Max I say to myself, "what if I fought harder", "what if I told him I loved him one more time" and "what if I begged him to stay?" These questions end up driving me into a crazy downward thought spiral, that often takes days to get out of. Now, as time has passed since my breakup I ask myself these questions less, but I still ask them, and they still drive me crazy. I have decided it is officially time to stop with these "what ifs."
This plan is much easier said then done but I am confident that I can do it. It does shock me to hear myself say that I am confident about this. I never thought I would have confidence when it comes to breakups. But, I have seen myself grow so much and overcome hard battles over the past seven months that I know I can do this to. This all comes with time. It will take a while, but eventually you can get to this point too.
I encourage all of you to stop asking yourself what if. This applies to not only relationships, but many other areas of your life. I always ask "what if I went to a different college, would I have gotten a better job?" or "what if I ordered the other entree at dinner, would I have been happier?" Now, these are two very different examples, but they both demonstrate how the "what ifs" can drive you crazy. If we keep asking ourselves these questions, we will never be able to live in the moment and enjoy our lives. If I keep asking "what ifs" related to Max I will never be able to completely put this behind me. I am determined to stop with these "what ifs" and continue my healing process. When you stop looking in the past, look at your current situation, and what surrounds you, you will see how beautiful life really is. If I can do it, I know you can too.
Until next time!
This plan is much easier said then done but I am confident that I can do it. It does shock me to hear myself say that I am confident about this. I never thought I would have confidence when it comes to breakups. But, I have seen myself grow so much and overcome hard battles over the past seven months that I know I can do this to. This all comes with time. It will take a while, but eventually you can get to this point too.
I encourage all of you to stop asking yourself what if. This applies to not only relationships, but many other areas of your life. I always ask "what if I went to a different college, would I have gotten a better job?" or "what if I ordered the other entree at dinner, would I have been happier?" Now, these are two very different examples, but they both demonstrate how the "what ifs" can drive you crazy. If we keep asking ourselves these questions, we will never be able to live in the moment and enjoy our lives. If I keep asking "what ifs" related to Max I will never be able to completely put this behind me. I am determined to stop with these "what ifs" and continue my healing process. When you stop looking in the past, look at your current situation, and what surrounds you, you will see how beautiful life really is. If I can do it, I know you can too.
Until next time!