It is so common to blame yourself once you go through a break up. Now, if you cheated on your significant other, then yes, I would blame you for the end. But, if your partner just walked away, moves on, gives a stupid reason, or just begins to be distant, do not put the blame on yourself. One thing I have learned is that many times the other person in the relationship has their own issues they bring with them, and sometimes that leads to a dissolution of a relationship, that isn't your doing. I understand that every situation is different, but many times, and often, it isn't you. Don't blame yourself, don't beat yourself up, know you are strong.
You may be wondering how this blog came to life and the answer to that is quite simple. Teenage heartbreak. When my high school sweetheart broke up with me I truly felt like my world was over. I lost my best friend and was convinced that I must have done something wrong. Turns out I didn't, he just wanted to date someone else that he liked for a long time. Now when I tell you that learning that was shitty, that is the understatement of a lifetime. As a young, 18 year old girl, that is probably one of the most damaging and heartbreaking things you can experience. It taints your feelings on love, and makes you feel like every guy out there is going to break your heart. I felt this way for almost a year, until I met a new guy who would soon become my boyfriend. I'm going to refer to him as Max in this blog. That isn't his real name, but I just want to keep that private, which I hope you can understand. Max changed my life. He made me feel like I was the most beautiful girl alive, and I pretty much forgot how shitty a heartbreak is. Until about a year later when he did the same thing. Once again, my world felt like it was upside down, and this time it was worse than the first, because it was much more serious, and much more raw. Max began dating someone only a few months later, someone that he knew the entire time we were together. How could I not wonder if she was why we ended? How could I not blame myself once again? Well, in all honesty it hasn't been long since I learned Max was with someone else, and I am still recovering. I am still piecing my heart back together. But, I always remind myself that I didn't do anything wrong, and many times this is just the way life goes. I know there are probably many of you reading this hoping I can give you a ten step solution to mending your heart, and if I could I would, but I can't. All I can offer here are my own stories and advice for you all. I hope that my stories help you understand that no matter how much pain you are in, you are not alone. We are all survivors, and will make it through. No matter how often you blame yourself or doubt who you are just remember to trust me and realize, it isn't your fault.
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