As I start to think about dating again, I begin asking myself the age old question; what am I looking for in a partner? Many things pop into my mind. I want someone ambitious, employed, nurturing, witty, and so on. But. I am also looking for someone with similar goals, dreams, and someone close in age.
When I talk to my friends about my so called list they always ask me what I consider "close to my age" to be. I usually say between 26 and 27. I'm 22, so this means I am considering dating someone four to five years older then me. I always thought that this was a bit too old than I would like, but I was okay with it because we are still pretty close in age. But, my opinion of too old changed when I found out a close family friend of mine was in a serious relationship with someone 20 years older than her. Now, I can definitely tell you that is not something I would be comfortable with. But it made me ask, is there actually such thing as being with someone "too" old?
My family friend, let's call her Victoria, is dating a guy 20 years older than her. He has two kids, a successful career, and a settled life. Victoria, on the other hand, is only 4 years out of college, doesn't have any children, is slowly working on her career, and doesn't know where she wants to settle. With two people at such different places in there life, how could a relationship possibly work? She wants children, but he has told her multiple times that he is past that stage in his life. They continually argue about what they each want, and they have a hard time accepting what the other wants in the future. How is that fair to both parties? If you and your partner are at two completely different stages, I think that does mean that they may be too old or too young for you.
Now yes, there is definitely a social reason why people tend to date men and women of a similar age. It seems strange when a 22 year old is in a relationship with someone over 30. But, besides that, there are legitimate reasons, besides social norms, for someone being too old for you. I personally don't see how a relationship can work with someone who is at a completely different stage than you, wants different things, and has gone through many life milestones without you.
That is just my opinion but I want to hear what you all think! Is there such a thing as "too" old? Let me know in the comments below or tweet at me! Until next time!
When I talk to my friends about my so called list they always ask me what I consider "close to my age" to be. I usually say between 26 and 27. I'm 22, so this means I am considering dating someone four to five years older then me. I always thought that this was a bit too old than I would like, but I was okay with it because we are still pretty close in age. But, my opinion of too old changed when I found out a close family friend of mine was in a serious relationship with someone 20 years older than her. Now, I can definitely tell you that is not something I would be comfortable with. But it made me ask, is there actually such thing as being with someone "too" old?
My family friend, let's call her Victoria, is dating a guy 20 years older than her. He has two kids, a successful career, and a settled life. Victoria, on the other hand, is only 4 years out of college, doesn't have any children, is slowly working on her career, and doesn't know where she wants to settle. With two people at such different places in there life, how could a relationship possibly work? She wants children, but he has told her multiple times that he is past that stage in his life. They continually argue about what they each want, and they have a hard time accepting what the other wants in the future. How is that fair to both parties? If you and your partner are at two completely different stages, I think that does mean that they may be too old or too young for you.
Now yes, there is definitely a social reason why people tend to date men and women of a similar age. It seems strange when a 22 year old is in a relationship with someone over 30. But, besides that, there are legitimate reasons, besides social norms, for someone being too old for you. I personally don't see how a relationship can work with someone who is at a completely different stage than you, wants different things, and has gone through many life milestones without you.
That is just my opinion but I want to hear what you all think! Is there such a thing as "too" old? Let me know in the comments below or tweet at me! Until next time!