Today I was on my way to the beach with my mom. We were both excited to have a simple girls day, catch up, and of course do a little gossiping. We got onto the topic of relationships, that is generally where our conversations go lately. We were talking about what I was looking for in a guy, when I begin to look, as well as one of my best friends and her relationship. Lets call her Laura. Laura just moved in with her boyfriend. They met in college and have been together for almost two years. I love Laura's boyfriend dearly, I think he is a fantastic guy and he makes my friend so happy. But, sometimes I worry because they come from very different worlds. This leads me to wonder, do similarities actually matter in relationships?
Laura is one of the kindest people I have ever met. She has a heart of gold and will do anything for anyone. When she talks about her boyfriend there is a light in her eye and I can tell how happy she is. I am happy for her. She deserves a good man, and she got one. Laura had a very hard childhood and the best way to describe it is that she came from a broken home. But, she is a fighter and made a wonderful life for herself. I am so proud of all she has been through and accomplished.
Her boyfriend, on the other hand, comes from a very different world. His parents have been together for years, they are very well off financially, and he never had to worry about much. Laura's life was very different. I wonder if this would affect there relationship in the future. Sometimes when someone comes from a very stable background they don't understand what others who were not so lucky went through. They may not be able to relate, or understand their concerns about relationships and stability. Years down the line will they manage money differently? Will they view relationship maintenance the same way? Will they have similar views on how to raise children? When entering a serious relationship these are all really important factors to consider. Many times, these factors develop during your upbringing and from your surroundings as well as family lifestyle. If people grow up so differently, and come from very different worlds, can it work? Or will differences eventually catch up to the couple and be too much to work through?
I really don't know the answer to this question. A big part of me hopes the answer is no. I hope that we can come from a different place than someone and still be able to make a relationship work. What do you all think? All I know is that I want my dear friend's relationship to work despite their different upbringings. But, I still wonder, do we really have to have similar backgrounds to our partners in order to have true relationship success?
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Laura is one of the kindest people I have ever met. She has a heart of gold and will do anything for anyone. When she talks about her boyfriend there is a light in her eye and I can tell how happy she is. I am happy for her. She deserves a good man, and she got one. Laura had a very hard childhood and the best way to describe it is that she came from a broken home. But, she is a fighter and made a wonderful life for herself. I am so proud of all she has been through and accomplished.
Her boyfriend, on the other hand, comes from a very different world. His parents have been together for years, they are very well off financially, and he never had to worry about much. Laura's life was very different. I wonder if this would affect there relationship in the future. Sometimes when someone comes from a very stable background they don't understand what others who were not so lucky went through. They may not be able to relate, or understand their concerns about relationships and stability. Years down the line will they manage money differently? Will they view relationship maintenance the same way? Will they have similar views on how to raise children? When entering a serious relationship these are all really important factors to consider. Many times, these factors develop during your upbringing and from your surroundings as well as family lifestyle. If people grow up so differently, and come from very different worlds, can it work? Or will differences eventually catch up to the couple and be too much to work through?
I really don't know the answer to this question. A big part of me hopes the answer is no. I hope that we can come from a different place than someone and still be able to make a relationship work. What do you all think? All I know is that I want my dear friend's relationship to work despite their different upbringings. But, I still wonder, do we really have to have similar backgrounds to our partners in order to have true relationship success?
Until next time! Be sure to follow me on Twitter! @trustmeitsnot