Last night I was up late with my girlfriends having a conversation about life and love. None of them have ever gone through an experience like I have but they still try and understand my feelings and pain. We ended up talking about how I wish someone told me whenever they saw a red flag with my exes. The approval from my friends and family, and their opinions, are very important to me. I would trust them with my life, so naturally I trust their opinion of people. When I said all this one of my friends said that it would have been very hard to tell me to end my relationship or that there were really bad signs, because she saw how in love I was. This got me thinking and part of me believes she was right. If one of my friends came up to me and said Max was a bad guy and I deserved more I would have gotten very upset and defensive. Many times you can't see a situation clearly when you are in it, and I think that is exactly what would have happened to me. Now that I realize this, I told my friends if I am ever in a situation again that they don't think is healthy, or one that may cause me harm, to tell me. The lessons I learned with Sam and Max showed me how important the opinions of friends and family are, and how you need to be open, take in advice, and not get defensive. I'm not saying that you have to listen to their advice every time, but just remember they have your best interests in mind, so maybe they are onto something. I have learned that I need to be open with my friends and that they may have insight that I am not seeing. Remember, you have great friends and a support system and you can get through anything. Until next time!
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