I've started dating someone new, who I really like. He's sweet, caring, and compassionate. But, I am definitely moving much slower than I have in the past and being a bit more guarded with my feelings. There is nothing wrong with that. After a serious breakup, it is completely justified to be cautious and tread carefully. My friends seem to disagree.
When I told them I was dating this new guy I got countless questions. Or I should say I got interrogated. Are you ready for this, do you like him, I don't know if I saw that many sparks, are you rushing? Those are only a handful of the judgmental questions I got. Now, I know my friends didn't ask these questions to be mean or judgmental. I know they asked because they care, but they definitely came across with a "judgey" tone. And to make matters even worse, they made me question my feelings and almost made me regret dating this new guy- who actually may be perfect.
At what point does one stop listening to the judgement and make their own decisions? That is my question. My friends mean well, but where is the line between concern and judgement? How can we tell if they are just trying to show concern, or if they are actually judging our situation?
Let me know what you think! Until next time!