If you have been reading my blogs for a little while, it is probably clear that I am a very emotional person. I take many things personally and I get emotional over a lot of issues, especially breakups. Since I am so emotional and I get attached to people, I often find myself wondering if reconnecting with an ex is a good idea or a bad one. Now, even if it was a bad idea, if I get it in my mind that I want to reconnect, I probably will. This is because for years I had it in my mind that I could win back an ex. I thought that if I reconnect I could slowly get things back to how they were. Now, I realize that thinking that way isn't a smart idea, and it isn't what I want either. But, is it a good idea to reconnect with an ex if you miss the friendship? Is it okay to reach out if you just want that friendship back, or if you want to check in because you care? The answer that I have come up with due to my own experiences has two parts. The first is yes, it is okay, and the second part is, only if you are strong enough to handle it. For example, when Sam and I broke up we tried to be friends right away, and it backfired. Now, almost three years later, we are finally in a place where we can talk, meet up, and be friends with no romantic feelings or attachments. I actually saw him last night and it was a great time. This is why I am able to say that I believe it is okay to reconnect, but only when you are ready. It isn't smart to test a friendship only a few weeks out. Now this is different for everyone, but if your relationship ended on good terms and you want your ex involved in your life just for friendship, I think that can be worked out. I love reflecting on situations like this because it makes me realize that I made it through some of the most painful times and I came out the other side. I never thought I would be able to get through the pain, and I did, and I even came out of it all with a friend.
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