One of my good friends, we can call her Liza, was only "talking" to a guy when he asked her to go to brunch to meet his parents. They were not a couple, they were not exclusive, and they had never talked about where their relationship was headed. When she told me she was meeting is family, I was so confused.
I did not understand how she felt comfortable going to brunch with his parents not knowing all of the details about their "relationship". How could she answer important questions such as, how long have you been a couple, what is your anniversary, or where do you see your relationship going if they weren't even official? Not going to lie, I was super judgmental about the whole thing, which I do feel badly about. I should have been more supportive despite my feelings, but I digress.
I bring this topic up because I'm finding myself in the same situation. I am "talking" to a new guy, I will call him Eli. Eli is the first guy I have actually liked since Max. He makes me feel good about myself and he is just a nice guy. Now, he and I are not a couple. I honestly don't think I'm ready for that. I still have work to do on recovering from Max, since we all know how much that affected me. But, he invited me over to his aunt's house this weekend for a little party/get together. I said yes, even though I don't feel comfortable with this. Part of me understands what Liz was thinking now.
I could have said no, but that seemed so rude to me. I wonder if Liz felt like she had to say yes too. I could explain to Eli that I want to know more about the status of our new "relationship" before I meet his family, but that would mean we would have to have "the talk" and I don't think I am ready for that and I think it is too soon for that. I have only known him for a little over a month. Liz could have been feeling the exact same way as I am. It is all starting to come together.
After all of this thinking, my question is, when should we meet someone's family? When is it too soon and when is it the right time? Or is this part of a new relationship similar to the creation of one, meaning is there ever really a right time?
Let me know what you think in the comments below or tweet me! Because to be honest with you, I don't know the answer to this one! Until next time!
I did not understand how she felt comfortable going to brunch with his parents not knowing all of the details about their "relationship". How could she answer important questions such as, how long have you been a couple, what is your anniversary, or where do you see your relationship going if they weren't even official? Not going to lie, I was super judgmental about the whole thing, which I do feel badly about. I should have been more supportive despite my feelings, but I digress.
I bring this topic up because I'm finding myself in the same situation. I am "talking" to a new guy, I will call him Eli. Eli is the first guy I have actually liked since Max. He makes me feel good about myself and he is just a nice guy. Now, he and I are not a couple. I honestly don't think I'm ready for that. I still have work to do on recovering from Max, since we all know how much that affected me. But, he invited me over to his aunt's house this weekend for a little party/get together. I said yes, even though I don't feel comfortable with this. Part of me understands what Liz was thinking now.
I could have said no, but that seemed so rude to me. I wonder if Liz felt like she had to say yes too. I could explain to Eli that I want to know more about the status of our new "relationship" before I meet his family, but that would mean we would have to have "the talk" and I don't think I am ready for that and I think it is too soon for that. I have only known him for a little over a month. Liz could have been feeling the exact same way as I am. It is all starting to come together.
After all of this thinking, my question is, when should we meet someone's family? When is it too soon and when is it the right time? Or is this part of a new relationship similar to the creation of one, meaning is there ever really a right time?
Let me know what you think in the comments below or tweet me! Because to be honest with you, I don't know the answer to this one! Until next time!