We've all done it. We get broken up with by our boyfriend/girlfriend and immediately run to the computer and search "ways to get your ex back." We feel as if Google will magically find a special ten step list that will get us our happiness back. We may think we are doing this because we want our ex back, but deep down it is because we want to feel like we are desired and want the pain to go away. That is how I have felt in the past, and I'm sure some of you have too. I desperately wanted to get my ex back, and prove to him that I was what he wanted and that he made a mistake. That was when I would turn to our dear friend Google. I thought that someone out in the internet land must have tried to get their ex back, it worked, and they would share it with the rest of us dumpees. I ended up finding a lot of articles but as I read them, I was not happy with what I found.
All these articles that were about getting back your ex said that reconnecting was the best option. To me, that seemed like common sense. Of course I have to reconnect with him if I want him back. But what happens after? What do I do once I reconnect? All of the advice seemed so simple. I didn't want that. I wanted magic. I wanted someone to tell me exactly what to say and how he would respond exactly. This was never going to happen. Every couple is different, and every person will react differently. I wasn't finding the specific "how to get Max back" article I wanted. I would never find that. Which was why I came to realization that we all need to stop reading these articles.
All the articles I was reading were telling me that I need to text him, call him, and meet up with him. That is going to make moving on ten times harder if he really wasn't interested in reconnecting. If he wasn't interested, I just opened up all these old wounds for nothing. If you and your ex are supposed to be together, I truly believe it will work out. You shouldn't have to create this "magic plan." You both should realize you want to be together. You shouldn't have to actively fight to get him back. I believe you should focus on you, don't actively try and start the relationship again, and give the situation time. Let things simmer. If time passes and you both feel that you were meant to be, it will work itself out. We all need to stop reading these articles because all they are doing is telling us that it is possible to get back our exes. And sadly sometimes it isn't. We need to stop reading these and follow our gut instincts. Everyone is different, so a ten step plan won't necessarily work for every couple and every situation. My advice is to give yourself time, and do what is right for YOU.
Until next time! Be sure to follow me on twitter! @trustmeitsnot
All these articles that were about getting back your ex said that reconnecting was the best option. To me, that seemed like common sense. Of course I have to reconnect with him if I want him back. But what happens after? What do I do once I reconnect? All of the advice seemed so simple. I didn't want that. I wanted magic. I wanted someone to tell me exactly what to say and how he would respond exactly. This was never going to happen. Every couple is different, and every person will react differently. I wasn't finding the specific "how to get Max back" article I wanted. I would never find that. Which was why I came to realization that we all need to stop reading these articles.
All the articles I was reading were telling me that I need to text him, call him, and meet up with him. That is going to make moving on ten times harder if he really wasn't interested in reconnecting. If he wasn't interested, I just opened up all these old wounds for nothing. If you and your ex are supposed to be together, I truly believe it will work out. You shouldn't have to create this "magic plan." You both should realize you want to be together. You shouldn't have to actively fight to get him back. I believe you should focus on you, don't actively try and start the relationship again, and give the situation time. Let things simmer. If time passes and you both feel that you were meant to be, it will work itself out. We all need to stop reading these articles because all they are doing is telling us that it is possible to get back our exes. And sadly sometimes it isn't. We need to stop reading these and follow our gut instincts. Everyone is different, so a ten step plan won't necessarily work for every couple and every situation. My advice is to give yourself time, and do what is right for YOU.
Until next time! Be sure to follow me on twitter! @trustmeitsnot