I have been a little hesitant to right about this topic because it is very personal. After thinking about it for a while, I've decided that it can be beneficial to share. Today I am going to share my story about going to therapy after a breakup, and how it helped me tremendously. I am not pushing this idea on anyone, because it is a very personal decision. I just want to share why I believe it can be helpful!
Back when Sam and I broke up 3 years ago I was in a very bad place. It was the first time I ever went through something like this, and it created a lot of anxiety for me. I had no idea how to move on or handle what had happened. I constantly blamed myself and felt so alone. I needed help getting happy again. This was when my mom suggested I go to therapy. I was totally against it at first. I thought it meant I was crazy. But, boy was I wrong. It was one of the best things I ever did for myself. Then, years later when I was going through my breakup with Max, and I still am, I chose to go to therapy again. I had stopped seeing someone once I started dating Max because I felt like he healed me and put me back together. But, I really should have kept going. Once he and I began having problems, that was when I went back, and I continued to speak to a therapist during the breakup process, and during the following months. I am still going, and it is really helping. I believe if I stuck with therapy the breakup with Max would have been a bit easier, because I would have had guidance along the way.
The main reason why I encourage therapy is because it is a time that is just about you. You are able to talk about all of your feelings and emotions. You don't have to worry about someone else chiming in with their own story. It is all about you, your struggle, and how to get better. When you are going through a breakup it kind of feels like you are in your own little personal hell. That hour with a therapist can make such a huge difference. You have an outlet where you can release all of your emotions, cry, scream, and not get judged. Therapy is a free space that is designed specifically for you. Talking about your feelings with someone is a fantastic way to feel like you aren't alone as well. When I Max and I broke up I needed to talk to someone because I felt like none of my friends understood and just judged. I was uncomfortable sharing my deepest and darkest emotions with certain people in my life and I needed someone who could listen to me cry and help me. Therapy did that for me. It was a time where I could say exactly how I was feeling and get help. I didn't have to worry about insulting anyone or keeping a fake smile on. I got to connect with my emotions and work through them.
Overall, I really suggest therapy because it can not only help you feel like you aren't alone, but it can really help open your eyes to how special you are and how all of this pain is not your fault. It can help you heal and begin to love again, and be happy. Until next time!
Back when Sam and I broke up 3 years ago I was in a very bad place. It was the first time I ever went through something like this, and it created a lot of anxiety for me. I had no idea how to move on or handle what had happened. I constantly blamed myself and felt so alone. I needed help getting happy again. This was when my mom suggested I go to therapy. I was totally against it at first. I thought it meant I was crazy. But, boy was I wrong. It was one of the best things I ever did for myself. Then, years later when I was going through my breakup with Max, and I still am, I chose to go to therapy again. I had stopped seeing someone once I started dating Max because I felt like he healed me and put me back together. But, I really should have kept going. Once he and I began having problems, that was when I went back, and I continued to speak to a therapist during the breakup process, and during the following months. I am still going, and it is really helping. I believe if I stuck with therapy the breakup with Max would have been a bit easier, because I would have had guidance along the way.
The main reason why I encourage therapy is because it is a time that is just about you. You are able to talk about all of your feelings and emotions. You don't have to worry about someone else chiming in with their own story. It is all about you, your struggle, and how to get better. When you are going through a breakup it kind of feels like you are in your own little personal hell. That hour with a therapist can make such a huge difference. You have an outlet where you can release all of your emotions, cry, scream, and not get judged. Therapy is a free space that is designed specifically for you. Talking about your feelings with someone is a fantastic way to feel like you aren't alone as well. When I Max and I broke up I needed to talk to someone because I felt like none of my friends understood and just judged. I was uncomfortable sharing my deepest and darkest emotions with certain people in my life and I needed someone who could listen to me cry and help me. Therapy did that for me. It was a time where I could say exactly how I was feeling and get help. I didn't have to worry about insulting anyone or keeping a fake smile on. I got to connect with my emotions and work through them.
Overall, I really suggest therapy because it can not only help you feel like you aren't alone, but it can really help open your eyes to how special you are and how all of this pain is not your fault. It can help you heal and begin to love again, and be happy. Until next time!