After a break up, deleting an ex on social media is a vital step. I advise all my friends to do it and continually tell them it will make them feel less pain. It would be great if I could follow my own advice. When I went through my break up with both Sam and Max I told everyone I was fine seeing them online and it didn't bother me. Obviously that was a lie.
Seeing them on social media is probably one of the most excruciating experiences I have ever had to endure. Seeing them post pictures with their new girlfriends and having fun feels like what I imagine taking a bullet would feel like. The obvious solution to this would be to delete them. But, when I go to do it I run into one problem. I panic that this will make them hate me.
When I hear people talking about their exes it always seems to be negative. Especially when one deletes the other off social media. This always seems to be the kick starter to nasty text messages, fights, and drama. I am horrified that this will happen to me. Even though I don't have hate for my exes, I still want to delete them so their new lives aren't constantly in my face. But, I don't want them to hate me for it. I worry what they will say about me and what they will say about our time together. But the more I think about it, I find myself asking, why should I care?
I know that the relationships I had with Sam and Max meant something. I know that they cared for me, and that I cared for them. There will never be a day that I deny that. And I know in my heart of hearts they will never look at the time we spent together is bad. This is why I need to stop worrying about how they will think of me now. They know me, they know I'm an emotional person, and if I delete them, I know they will realize that I did it to protect my own heart. But, if they don't for some reason, I shouldn't care. They broke my heart, and are no longer in my life. What they think of me and my life doesn't matter. I have to stop worrying about this and live my life.
If any of you feel this way, we can go through this together. Never be afraid to reach out. Until next time!
Seeing them on social media is probably one of the most excruciating experiences I have ever had to endure. Seeing them post pictures with their new girlfriends and having fun feels like what I imagine taking a bullet would feel like. The obvious solution to this would be to delete them. But, when I go to do it I run into one problem. I panic that this will make them hate me.
When I hear people talking about their exes it always seems to be negative. Especially when one deletes the other off social media. This always seems to be the kick starter to nasty text messages, fights, and drama. I am horrified that this will happen to me. Even though I don't have hate for my exes, I still want to delete them so their new lives aren't constantly in my face. But, I don't want them to hate me for it. I worry what they will say about me and what they will say about our time together. But the more I think about it, I find myself asking, why should I care?
I know that the relationships I had with Sam and Max meant something. I know that they cared for me, and that I cared for them. There will never be a day that I deny that. And I know in my heart of hearts they will never look at the time we spent together is bad. This is why I need to stop worrying about how they will think of me now. They know me, they know I'm an emotional person, and if I delete them, I know they will realize that I did it to protect my own heart. But, if they don't for some reason, I shouldn't care. They broke my heart, and are no longer in my life. What they think of me and my life doesn't matter. I have to stop worrying about this and live my life.
If any of you feel this way, we can go through this together. Never be afraid to reach out. Until next time!