Throughout the course of my blogging journey I have pointed out many things that annoy me. From well meaning advice, painful reminders of the past, to people pushing me to date. One thing I haven't mentioned is how people drive me crazy when they say "you're too picky", until now.
I've been in two serious relationships, with two people who fit a lot of the criteria I look for in a guy. Now that I am just starting to date again, I look back at the list in my head of qualities I want in a guy, just like I did when I first met Sam and Max. There is absolutely nothing wrong with is and I don't understand why so many people think being selective, or picky, is a problem.
If you are out on a date and you know that you aren't going to be happy with this person, that is okay. Why would you want to settle for someone who you know won't work for you? I don't call that being picky, I call that being smart.
My friends and family have said that by having a "list" of qualities I want in a guy I am not giving people a proper chance. I disagree. I know I want someone with a job, and with motivation. Those are two simple things on my list, but two things I won't sacrifice. Another item on my list (and list means the made up qualities in my head) is that they live within 30 mintues of me. Now, if I find someone who I really like, but lives 45 mintues away, of course I wouldn't let that be a deal breaker. There is a difference between being picky and knowing what qualities to look for as deal breakers. If I ruled out a guy because they lived 31 minutes away, not 30, id call that picky. I wouldn't say that denying a guy a date because he is unemployed is picky. It is realistic. Since I am looking for someone serious to settle down with, that is a very important factor.
There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want and what you don't. You are allowed to be picky. You don't have to settle. Don't let anyone make you feel like you should.
Until next time!
I've been in two serious relationships, with two people who fit a lot of the criteria I look for in a guy. Now that I am just starting to date again, I look back at the list in my head of qualities I want in a guy, just like I did when I first met Sam and Max. There is absolutely nothing wrong with is and I don't understand why so many people think being selective, or picky, is a problem.
If you are out on a date and you know that you aren't going to be happy with this person, that is okay. Why would you want to settle for someone who you know won't work for you? I don't call that being picky, I call that being smart.
My friends and family have said that by having a "list" of qualities I want in a guy I am not giving people a proper chance. I disagree. I know I want someone with a job, and with motivation. Those are two simple things on my list, but two things I won't sacrifice. Another item on my list (and list means the made up qualities in my head) is that they live within 30 mintues of me. Now, if I find someone who I really like, but lives 45 mintues away, of course I wouldn't let that be a deal breaker. There is a difference between being picky and knowing what qualities to look for as deal breakers. If I ruled out a guy because they lived 31 minutes away, not 30, id call that picky. I wouldn't say that denying a guy a date because he is unemployed is picky. It is realistic. Since I am looking for someone serious to settle down with, that is a very important factor.
There is nothing wrong with knowing what you want and what you don't. You are allowed to be picky. You don't have to settle. Don't let anyone make you feel like you should.
Until next time!